Relax, Breathe, and Grow

Fig 1. Growing within. | by Henri Matisse | 1952

Fig 1. Growing within. | by Henri Matisse | 1952

Relax, Breathe,

and Grow

It’s now a week since Fall Equinox, are you feeling the change of the season? How about within yourself, too?

We are ever being challenged to change and grow. This process is a natural part of living–a healthy and thriving life.

I cherish the path of vibrational-based living because it challenges me not to remain the same. Even when staying the same feels more comfortable and growing feels more uncomfortable, the call and invitation are always there.

Where is it that we outgrow, but stay due to being comfortable?

What new heights are we not attaining, because we can’t deal with the pressure, tension, pain, sacrifice, aloneness, awkwardness, and/or challenges, that arise during the process of change and growth?


As I sat in my vehicle on the side of the road recently, I closed my eyes, and I had a deep exhale. I had pulled over to gather myself. From a place of an observer, I observed myself for the last three months grow more and more frustrated and annoyed with the rude energy of drivers in Los Angeles traffic. I knew I had to do something about it, or I too might very well become a rude driver right back in return. But naw.

So on this day, enough was enough. I guided myself to inner-calm land, through meditation and vowed to now become a mindful driver, and that driving would from here on be a meditation time for me.

I caught that low vibe habit-in-forming and transformed it. 

What angers you,

controls you. Have

peace and you

control it.

– Lalah Delia

What challenged me–changed me and inspired me to grow. 

I’m now happy to announce that I’m a peaceful, friendly, and courteous driver. Instead of being offended or annoyed by rude drivers, I have compassion. Maybe they don’t have the tools to vibrate higher; maybe there’s an emergency they’re dealing with, perhaps they’re having a really bad day, and so on. You never know what people are going through. This isn’t an excuse for the behavior, but rather a perspective shift into a higher-awareness that regardless, my role is to vibrate higher daily because this is the path that I chose to live. And in this world, our path, faith, and practice will be tested. Mindfulness of when it’s happening–is everything.

I recognized the challenge, and rose up to it. It prompted me to shift out of what might have become a comfortable place and habit of being annoyed and stressed, into vibrating higher, in the midst of it all.

This type of challenge is significant and can translate into many areas of life.

Where are you being challenged to grow and vibrate higher?

Maybe for you, it’s also traffic that tests you and allows you to witness the lower-vibrational and unmindful side of humans in passing.

Or maybe it’s something else, like a person at work who’s unmindful and rude. Or a loved one, or family function, that’s triggering. Possibly an environment you frequent, like school, public lines, stores, or the public transit, that induces stress, tension, or anxiety, due to the unmindfulness of the people there.

Thank the Lord; we have options!!

Fig. 2 | All around us. | by Henri Matisse | 1953

Fig. 2 | All around us. | by Henri Matisse | 1953


Turn Inward

Turn inward and vibrate higher. Return home to take care of yourself, as zen master and teacher Thich Nhat Hahn would encourage us to do.

When we focus on our own vibration being stable, instead of other people’s being unstable, we become anchored in a higher power, awareness, and force. Once anchored and rooted within, the array of vibrations out in the society don’t move us from our center, our place of inner-power.  

Here’s to all of the unexpected places that challenge us to grow!! We got this!!  

Oh, and now when in traffic, I’m more aware of other mindful, friendly, and courteous drivers. I love spotting them out. I feel the connection. 

We out here!! 

Unexpected Areas of

Mindful and Practice

If we’re not mindful, we can go through our day on auto-pilot. Or, like a ship tossed by the waves and winds of life from here and there, with no real direction or destination in mind.

Take your power back. Drop in these moments.

Drop into yourself; your practice, your faith, and mindfulness.

Unexpected Areas of Mindful and Practice:

  • Driving

  • Waiting

  • Working

  • Serving

  • Communicating

  • Working

  • Traveling

  • Visiting

Relax, breathe, and grow.

In Closing

Introspective question: How are you dropping into yourself and your practice lately? How or where can you embrace your practice and path more?

For extra or urgent support, adaptogens and flower essences are great for quickly balancing the nervous system and restoring inner-calm. This flower essence especially. Mindful breathing and breathwork are powerful aids as well.

Stay close to your support community be it friends, family, spiritual community, or a trusted practitioner.

Self-care, to discharge, restore and recharge.

Thank you for reading and for being here in community!

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After Manifestation

Fig. 1 | Aligning| Santa Monica, CA. | taken by Lalah Delia

Fig. 1 | Aligning| Santa Monica, CA. | taken by Lalah Delia



You've got this!

That's first and


Let us proceed.

Your gifts and natural talents joined with dedication, skill, the work you put in, and your vibration, are what carry you from one level to the next. In the manifestation process, and life, there are universal rules and laws of adjusting, adapting, and aligning that naturally apply.

Your primary role, wherever you are now, and wherever you find yourself in the future, is to be fully present and mindful and to adjust, adapt and align, so that you experience, and embody your higher potential, right there where you are now.

Are you adapting well to where you are and with what you've manifested? Are you still living in alignment with it, after receiving it? Are you sustaining it at a level you intended and desired to?

When you call a thing in, furthermore after you've received it, there's a process in place and happening. The process is requiring you to adjust your life to [fully] make room for the manifestations. And often to do so, modifications, or as we’ll explore here, adjustments, are in order.

To adjust is to transform yourself into a new way of being. This involves computing and reconfiguring your mind, body, soul, life, and/or immediate space and environment, into a more adequate state and vibration, that promotes sustainability, progress, and success.

Adjusting Yourself

Sometimes it just happens organically, without any external or deliberate intervention. Your life, in this case, adjusts itself into a new version. The process here occurs smoothly. 

Then, there are other times when things can be more slow-moving, confusing, and even turbulent. And in this case, you have to be more deliberate and intentional with your life and the process. For instance: adjusting your nutrition, your habits, your behavior, your personality, your belief system, your daily routines, your environment, your methods, your workout, your relationships, your vibration, even your path, and the route you take. It's all about making the right supportive adjustments. 

Change, edit, and

modify your life

until you find your

rhythm and flow.

Fig. 2 | Aligning Together | Santa Monica, CA. | taken by Lalah Delia

Fig. 2 | Aligning Together | Santa Monica, CA. | taken by Lalah Delia



We enter most things in our lives on an entry-level. This is where most people have the most challenging time adjusting and adapting. But through the forces of perseverance, development, and dedication, we journey beyond entry-level, and into the fullness of what we aspire to.

After a while, mastery takes place so well that you don't even recognize that you've attained it in a particular area until perhaps someone points it out to you. You've embodied it. You are one with it, and 'it's now one with you. This is adjusting, adapting, and aligning.

Over the years, it took me some time to adjust, adapt, and/or align with the process of:

  • Healing

  • Becoming a mother for the first time

  • Eating healthy

  • Breaking out of undesired habits, cycles, and patterns

  • Vibrating higher daily

  • Living in my power

  • Pursuing a higher purpose

  • Putting my work and myself out there

  • Creating a website

  • Running a brand

  • Speaking in public

  • Being an author

  • Writing a [whole] book

  • Moving back home to LA

It was all that I desired to manifest. But when each one showed up, there was a higher level of work to do. These manifestations, each in their own unique way, re-arranged and shifted my life, and challenged the old me, into the new me. 

So what have I learned? I learned to be ready to do the work: to sustain that which I prayed for!! Truly!! And, to respect and honor the process of adapting to it all.

Introspective question: How are you adapting to your new reality, path, season, or manifestations? How are you doing with sustaining things over there? 

Keep taking all the

time you need, to


Fig. 3 | Sustaining | Santa Monica, CA. | taken by Lalah Delia

Fig. 3 | Sustaining | Santa Monica, CA. | taken by Lalah Delia

Failure to Adapt |


In some cases, there are times when no matter of adjusting helps a person mentally or emotionally adapt to their new role or environment. Once in it, they become to realize that it's just not for them, and they are unable to progress and succeed in 'it' or at 'it,' as a result.

In the military, this is known as "Failure to Adapt" to military life and the environment. This leads to an honorable discharge, where the person is free to return to the previous life they've known. This is a grace given to entry-level soldiers in training.

If you think you may be experiencing 'failure to adapt', don't be too hard on yourself. Focus on the solutions. Journey in grace, love yourself through it and live in your power, whatever you do next. The right thing will come. Just keep your heart and mind open to it. Keep exploring. Keep vibrating higher daily. And know that when you learn from your failures, they transform you into a teacher, and your experiences into profound lessons.


When you're clear that you are indeed in the right place, but merely facing challenges adapting or adjusting to it, it's time to: align. Think of two wavelengths aligning themselves to the same frequency, this is harmony, which causes resonance. 

Alignment is a process that puts you on the same frequency as a thing.

As with adjusting, alignment can happen when we don't even realize it's happening. And at other times, it takes more effort on our part to get us there.

"How do I know when I'm out of alignment?", you may ask. 

Not feeling like yourself, is a clear sign you're out of alignment. And so is not feeling connected to, or in harmony with, something or someone you love. That's how you'll know.

Alignment is our natural state. If we find ourselves wandering from the path, we're never too far to come back home to ourselves. Re-aligning and vibrating higher is how you come back home.

How To Align:

Do more of what helps you vibrate higher daily and more of what makes you come home to yourself.

Examples of how I align: Spiritual practice, mindfulness practice, mindful breathing, meditation, fasting, deep full rest, slowing down, slow-living, gratitude practice, self-responsibility, journeying in grace, spending time out in the sun with nature, listening to my Energy Cleanse playlist, along with many more ways.

This Week’s


If or when you find yourself being challenged, overwhelmed, confused, or disconnected, slow down and come back home to yourself by:

  1. Aligning.

  2. Reflecting on your vibration.

  3. Introspecting for awareness.

  4. Making necessary adjustments.

  5. Seeking help.

  6. Leaning on your support community.

  7. If you don’t have a support community, call it in.

Thank you for reading and for being here in community!

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