Subject 28: Self-Dates: Taking Time for Yourself

Self-Dates: Taking Time for Yourself

A visual meditation and Virtual outinG for you. Plus First Podcast!

Journey with me as I go out on a self-date. In this video vlog, which doubles as a visual meditation and virtual outing, I spend nourishing alone and explorative time at The Getty Museum in sunny Los Angeles. Taking time for ourselves is essential. It’s how we continually learn ourselves. It’s a great way to cultivate our inner-lives, inner-peace, and greater self-awareness and worth. And, it’s how we take our power back. Solitude is sacred!

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Love you, so much! Relax, rest, and enjoy!

“Sometimes, you have to go off alone, to come back and be better. Solitude is sacred.”



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Self-Dates: Taking time for Yourself

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There are many reasons and times when being alone with yourself is cathartic, essential, necessary, and cleansing. Such as:

  • To process emotions, you're experiencing

  • To discharge heavy energy/s

  • To release emotional stress

  • To release what isn't yours vibrationally

  • To clear your mind

  • To seek and gain clarity

  • To listen to your inner voice

  • To connect to Higher Power

  • Refresh and reset your spirit, soul, mind, and vibrational field

Where are at least three places you can take yourself out on a self-date this summer ?


Things To Do Solo:

1. Volunteer time: go alone and spend a day away from your life and impact someone else's. What causes are you passionate about? Where/who can use your gifts. Volunteering is also a great way to learn new skills. A new craft in particular for me (although I wasn't alone) was learning to build a picket fence while volunteering with Habitat for Humanity. A whole picket fence, ya'll! The thing that stood out to me was that the process of building a fence felt like a meditation. It was the most relaxing deep physical labor! Who knew!?

2. Mother Nature: Let mother nature be your guide and companion. Nature is one of the most powerful, potent, and effective conduits available to us. Time spent in nature is soul medicine, it's cleansing, and most of the time it's free! Unless you're at a National Park or State Beach, whereas there 's a small fee to enter or park. These fees are contributions. They help with the upkeep of preserving these local and national natural spaces and treasures.

Go out and explore nature. Happy adventures to you! Don't litter.

3. Go to a sacred site or space: Spending time in sacred spaces alone is so very freeing. Without the company of someone else in your life present, you can allow your spirit and heart open up in profound ways that only alone and solitude time births. The good news is that The Most High and your divine guides are always with you.

Some of the other ways are:

Going to a garden

A favorite restaurant

A museum

A concert

Go check out a movie

Going hiking

Dropping in a new class

Hitting the road. Take a road trip

Other forms of travel

Use discernment and wisdom wherever you go. Stay mindful of your surroundings. Plan ahead. Leave a note with someone. Go have fun!


  1. What are your intentions for taking time for yourself?

  2. Go within. Listen. Where is your life and soul asking you to go?

  3. Can you feel and sense with clarity where you’re being called to expand and vibrate higher through solitude?

  4. Are there healthy boundaries in place to support your ‘me-time’?

  5. If not, how will you set them and honor them?

  6. What is your soul’s medicine this season? What’s nourishing you? What’s currently feeding your soul? Do more of that! Alone!

  7. Where in your life are you feeling lead to be alone more often?

  8. How will you honor the process?

Related Quotes

“Freeing yourself was one thing, claiming ownership of that freed self was another.”

― Toni Morrison, Beloved

“Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”

― Louise Hay

“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”

― Unknown

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

― Rumi

Find Your soul’s Medicine.

–Lalah Delia

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Subject 27: 3 Things I'm Learning This Season

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“This season is a sacred part of the process.”


3 Things I’m Learning THis Season

Subject 27: 3 Things I’m Learning This Season

Journey with me! Come along, as I spend nourishing time in nature’s sanctuary and reflect on 3 Things I’m Learning in This Season. I’ve been paying deep attention to my life and honoring the process. It’s a beautiful thing when we reach a place of sacred flow. Where we aren’t forcing our life, but instead flowing and being in sacred tune: with it, with sacred divine timing, and with the bigger divine process happening for us–and through us.

In this video vlog, I share what I’m learning and leaning all the more into this season.

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Butterfly vibrations. The butterflies love me! And they love you!

Butterfly vibrations. The butterflies love me! And they love you!

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What are 3 Things you’re learning This season?

What Are you Learning:

  1. Mind-wise

  2. Body-wise

  3. Spirit-wise

  4. Soul-wise

  5. Social-wise

  6. Vibration-wise

You are being divinely guiding on your journey. Your Higher Power knows the best way. Honoring the process and guidance is how you take your power back, and/or stay in your place of power.


Waht is the SACRED WORK To Do?

Stay Ready. Fortify. Do more of what sharpens you, nourishes you, and gives you power: mind, body, spirit, soul, vibrational. This helps you to show up ready and in your power, and to remain composed, graceful, and poised.  

What can you do more of in this season? What can you do less of?

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  1. Are you listening to your body and to your life?

  2. Go within. Listen. What is it communicating to you?

  3. Observe your life and take note. Do more of what makes it and you vibrate higher daily.

  4. Are there things, or people, that are no longer serving you in this season?

  5. What is your soul’s medicine this season? What’s nourishing you? What’s currently feeding your soul?

  6. Are you honoring this season and it’s process?

  7. How can you honor it more?

Be mindful and open to what your soul’s medicine is and isn’t this season.

–Lalah Delia

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Subject 26: Navigating Your Desert as a Millennial w/India




Hello all!

Today’s class will be held by the lovely India (me!). I’m Lalah’s daughter, for those who don’t know, and I serve as a VHD team member. I’m so overjoyed to be sharing my insight on the desert terrain, as I’m currently journeying through one in this season of my life. Being that I am indeed a millennial, 21, I’m fully aware of the significance of acknowledging, recognizing, and knowing how to navigate through your desert early on in life.

Throughout life, we may be called to go to a sacred place within ourselves, with ourselves, to purge, receive, release, make space for new, disconnect, become “you” again, open ourselves up for spiritual growth, enter a new season/ chapter in your life, and so much more!

In this video, I’ll be giving you a fresh perspective on how to successfully recognize and/or overcome your terrain to assist you in reaching your fullest potential. Because ultimately, that’s what it’s all about! :)

“Sometimes, you have to go be alone to come back and be better. Solitude is sacred. ”


Navigating your desert As A Millennial


Subject 26: Navigating The Desert


1.recognizing when it’s time to enter your desert

2. Emotional Care and support

3. Protecting Your energy

4. Significance of desert


5 practices to help you journey though your desert

  1. Prayer and other spiritual work

  2. Meditation

  3. Taking tonics as needed

  4. Self-care: baths, binaural beats, massage, rest, fitness, nourishing foods…etc

  5. Mindfulness: stay mindful of why you’re being called to be in your desert.



  1. Are you recognizing the signs that you’re being lead to the desert?

  2. Are you in the desert now?

  3. Are you staying away from the things that no longer serve you?

  4. What does your environment look and feel like? Is it supporting your terrain?

  5. Are you honoring the process?


What are the things that make you vibrate higher daily? Use these tools to keep you not only sustained, but empowered in the desert.

What are your goals and intentions for this terrain? Keep in mind that your desert has a higher purpose.

“sometimes, you have to go be alone to come back and be better. Solitude is sacred.”

- Lalah delia

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Sister Talk: Spring Cleaning Your Life w/Maryam Hasnaa

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Sister Talk:w/Maryam Hasnaa

My dear friend Maryam and I chat about the symbolism of spring time in our lives and how we ‘spring clean’ our lives and work with new spring time energies and its vitality for our higher good. Spring is a powerful season of refreshing, restoration, and rebirth. Enjoy the vibes!

How are you using this spring season for your good? Are you refreshing, restoring, and rebirthing?

Spring Cleaning Your Life

Spring Cleaning



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Subject 25: BODY WORK: For Coming Home to Yourself

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The body is a magnet and is absorbing energies all day long, all of the time. Are you aware of it? Do you feel it? Your body is always speaking in direct effect to your day, your thoughts, your choices, your interactions, and your experiences. Listen and honor it.

In this class, we explore doing just that and more, like empowering it and helping it to thrive. YES INDEED!





Subject 25: Body Work



How to discharge energy

Cleanliness is next to godliness 

Soaking in epsom salt, essential oils or recommended products

Binaural beats

and more ways shared in the video



Working out/staying active/moving the energy around and out


Baths to soak body stress away

Nourishing with healing foods

Slowing down, pausing, relaxing, and restoring 

Reserving your energy 

Storing energy

Healthy desired weight for you

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Boundaries are about living in honor and reverence to who you are as a vessel and soul being, and not entwining yourself with what isn’t in service to your highest good, or with the higher good of the collective. It’s not personal, it’s vibrational. It’s energy.


Keep a mindful eye on what’s happening in your body, in your personal space, and in the settings around you while out in public spaces. When you're observant, you have more power to respond instead of react. And to tend to your body’s needs. You have the power. Distinguish what yours and what’s someone else’s vibration and projections. Acknowledge any areas you’re being called to do the work, to restore, to nourish, to nurture, to heal, to charge, to slow down, to release, to move, and so on.

Be mindful and observant of what you’re taking in and being exposed to and how much.


You’ve done the work, now it’s time to guard your body temple.Doing the work is a form protection.  


Stay Ready. Fortify. Do more of what sharpens you, nourishes you, and gives you power: mind, body, spirit, soul, vibrational. This helps you to show up ready and in your power, and to remain composed, graceful, and poised.  


  1. How have you been treating your body?

  2. Are you loving your body into well being?

  3. Do you speak empowering words that serve and affirm your body, or that don’t?

  4. Are you listening to your body and honoring what it’s communicating to you?

  5. Are you honoring your body as the temple and sacred ground that it is?

  6. Are you empowering your body as the vessel and vehicle it is?


  1. What do you love about your body?

  2. What about your body are you grateful for?

  3. What is your body thriving from as of lately?

  4. What is depleting it and/or causing not to thrive?

  5. Where can you send more love within?

  6. How can you poise and fortify yourself to show up in your power?

  7. How can you rise above, vibrate higher daily, and thrive your way forward?

If you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready. Journey in grace and power.

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Subject 24: Navigating This Life

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Navigating This Life

Replay From Live Online class

Live class, chat, and Q + A are back in this one!

Life is suppose to empower us and fortify us into higher, proper, and necessary, action.

So much is going on in various directions and we are feeling it deep: spiritually, mentally, emotionally, energetically, physically, and vibrationally. Just in all the ways. We are looking for our place, balance, purpose, way, and power, in it all. The inner and outer awakening is no doubt happening. We see that there are high vibrations and low vibrations are at war, within or without, near and far. We are being called rise into our higher potential on all levels, all the more.

In this class, we navigate into it.

Be in the world, but not of it.

– scripture

“She emerged from it all transformed.”

– Lalah Delia

Navigating This Life

Talking Points:

  1. Realize Your Role:

    In order to navigate this life, it going to take realizing Our role here as: Angels, Warriors, and Overseers, vessels and conduits. Which are you?  


  2. Honor Your Spiritual Instincts:

    It takes honoring your spiritual instincts: over everything.

    And living live by it/them.

  3. Protocol:

    A code or system you live by. 

    What lifestyle best supports who you are? What nutritional path, what self-care routine, what type of people and relationships, what type of environment? 

  4. Set Boundaries:

    Boundaries are about living faithfully to who you are as a vessel, warrior, earth angel, and soul being, and not entwining yourself with what isn’t in service to your highest good, or with the higher good of the collective. It’s not personal, it’s vibrational. It’s energy.

  5. Observe:

    Earth angels, Warriors, Teachers, Creative, and Overseers live a very observant life, because they must. Keep a mindful eye on what’s happening in your space and in the settings around you while out in public spaces. Stay security minded. This helps you to ‘not get caught slippin’. When you're observant, you have more power to respond instead of reacting. Distinguish what yours and what’s someone else’s vibration and projections. Acknowledge any areas you’re being called to develop and grow more in, to show up and serve more in, and to release, let go, and move on from. 

  6. Sacred Covenants:

    When you live and operate as the earth angel, the warrior, and vessel and conduit, there are spiritual laws that will now passionately govern your life, your choices, and actions. And there are sacred covenants that you honor and uphold as far as what you engage in and refrain from, in this life. 

  7. Stay Ready:

    Fortify. Do your sacred work. Do more of what sharpens you, nourishes you, and gives you power: mind, body, spirit, soul, vibrational. This helps you to show up ready and in your power, and to remain composed and poised on your journey.  

    “If you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready.”

  8. Integrate Your Shadow:

    You can virtuous and assertive. This is where you stop being a yes person and become brave. You now bring in your shadow and give it a healthier role, which is setting in place your ‘sacred no’s’. To stand up for your truth wherever need be. This is not about giving toxic habits in that you are being called to transcend, but about the helpful traits left that you may avoid and neglect to except as a part of you and abide in them. Your higher potential, higher purpose, higher good, and higher path will require you to be in your power. It’s about incorporating your strengths and not dumbing them down, having them under-control.

    Once intergraded it now has a higher purpose to serve you and not control you, and run wild. “What angers you controls you, have peace and you control it.” Intergrading it gives it a higher purpose. Once you integrate your shadow, the game changes and people feel it. This is where and when people say, you’ve changed, and then start coming correct. 

    “Oh she didn't get rid of it, she integrated it” Uh oh!”

    And this took me a while. It took letting go of who and what didn’t serve me in order to go be in the spiritual desert where the alchemy happens.

    “She emerged from it all transformed.”


  1. How are you feeling?

  2. How is your heart?

  3. Are you navigating in your power and gifts?

  4. Do you feel empowered enough?

  5. Do you know how to navigate forward? Is there clarity?


  1. Which role/s are you?

  2. What areas are you navigating in your personal life?

  3. How about in the wider world? What areas are you navigating?

  4. What areas are paining you to navigate? What areas are pure joy?

  5. How can you poise and fortify yourself to show up poised and in your power? How can you overcome distractions in your way?

  6. What shadows (limiting beliefs, fears, habits, traits, patterns, and so on) can you transmute into strengths and positives?

  7. What does emerging from all you’re navigating through transformed, look and feel like?

Journey in grace and power.

–Lalah Delia

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Subject 23: How I Stepped Into My Purpose w/ Fear and an Imperfect Past

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How I Stepped Into My Purpose with Fear and an Imperfect Past

Replay From Live Online Class

We are vessels. We are conduits. We are change agents.

Vibrating higher daily allows you-me-we-all to grow, thrive, rise, and self-actualize–as intended. As we journey with a greater sense of well-being, harmony, wholeness, and purpose, we become of higher service to ourselves, to our Divine, and to our times. Vibrating higher daily is [also] how you take your power back! Very important.

When we aren’t living out our purpose, we can find ourselves seeking ‘it’ in all the wrong places and ways that only pursuing and living our purpose will.

The wrong thing may seem to satisfy, but never really for long.

Our purpose is always a part of our healing and our on-going development, and so, it’s essential to do what it is you’re here to do to reach your fuller higher potential self.

No matter what you’ve been through or how much fear or confusion may be clouding the higher path forward, the path is real and ready for you to it take on.

And all you’ve been through has fortified you. You more ready than you may realize! Start where you can. No matter how big, small, or entry level. Just get in the game. That’s how all you need to level up comes to you.

Doing the day-today work of vibrating higher is how your purpose reveals itself, more and more

In this class, I share about overcoming all that I had to in order to step into my purpose, and shift into a new destiny and reality.

Don’t let people edit your dreams and your decrees because of their own self-doubt and lower self-worth.

–Lalah Delia

Do what makes you vibrate higher daily. This charges you as the conduit. 

– Lalah Delia

How I Stepped Into My Purpose with Fear and an Imperfect Past Pt. 1

Replay From Live Online Webinar

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Talking Points:

  1. Decide:

    •We are not what happens to us. We are who overcomes

    • The plot twist is that it all works for your good and purpose


  2. Introspection:

    • Getting real with myself: What do I have to improve 

    • No more defeated or victim mindset 

    • Make the choice to step into your purpose 

  3. Guidance & Support System:

    Call in your mentors, teachers, guides, and like-minded community

  4. Transformation, Resilience, and Grit:

    Work through resistance and old patterns

    Jumping timelines 

    Do the work

  5. Spiritual Covering:

    Deepen your faith 

    Stay connected to your higher source for fortification, protection, and guidance

  6. Mindset:

    • Don

    •Be mindful of resistance showing up. Move through it

    • Show up and take up space

    • Feel the fear and doing it anyway 

    • Non-competitive vibes only 

    • What’s for you cannot be taken 

    • All is in divine timing 

    • Trust the process

    • Start where you are 

    • Have daily gratitude for the gift 

    • Continue to develop and cultivate your gift and mind

  7. Embodiment:

    • It is not separate from you.You don’t just do, you are it

    • Your lifestyle supports your gift and purpose


  1. Where are you at purpose wise? Are you currently living in your purpose?

  2. If not, begin to look at and take note of what your passions and gifts are and what you feel called and lead to do in the world, that will put you in sacred service. This can be fun! Maybe it something in the world that pains you though. Put your passion and pain together and begin to offer and serve. Your gifts were created to be part of the plan. And will continue to reveal themselves as you journey forward in purpose, with an open heart and mind.

  3. If you are already operating in your purpose are you showing up fully? Are you living in embodiment? Does your daily lifestyle and environment support you as the vessel and conduit?

  4. Do you have a support system? How will you cultivate it or call it in?

  5. Are there any relationships, habits, cycles, or patterns that hinder you from living in your purpose? If so, what will you do to rise up and out, and overcome a life that doesn’t serve or support who you are here to be?

  6. Realize that you are enough and that your gifts, callings, and purpose, are necessary to us all.

Once you begin, you no longer have energy for the people or things once not serving you.

–Lalah Delia

Subject 22: Sisterhood | Women Supporting Women

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Women Supporting Women

As women, we are taking our place in the world more and more daily.

We are rising out of lives and relationships of all sorts that no longer serve us, or that never have, and making space for lives and relationships that will.

Vibrating higher daily, also looks like being a great sister friend and creating the necessary community of high vibrations for each other to feel nurtured, held, and supported in. It also means, taking those high vibrations out into the wider world around you, as medicine and nourishment, through all you contribute to the collective.

As we journey in power and grace, we can help our sister friends do the same. We can become beacons and create powerful support systems, so all in the sisterhood thrive and reach higher potentials.

If you don’t yet have the sisterhood, no worries, you can call it in. That’s exactly what I have done throughout my journey. Sometimes, different levels of growth, requires new sister friends to show up in your life. And you in theirs. As you do the work of vibrating higher daily, and living in your purpose and power, they show up.

Through divine alignment, certain higher friendships will only manifest and materialize once you’ve done ‘the work’ and have developed and unfolded in necessary ways, and are vibrating at a certain frequency to match them.

Doing the work is how the sisterhood assembles itself.

Women showing up and supporting other women is ancestral and tribal.

–Lalah Delia

When women remember who they are, the game changes.

– Lalah Delia



Subject 22

Talking Points:

How Women Can Empower Other Women:

  1. When women support you return the favor

  2. Give back to the women who give to you

  3. Don't let the other women you care about carry the friendship alone

  4. Send positive messages to each other

  5. Reinforce self-love and self-care culture

  6. Show up, pitch in, and mean it


  1. Do you have a sisterhood? If not, what actions will you gracefully take to call in and manifest your sisterhood?

  2. What is the vibration of your sisterhood?

  3. How can you show up in a supportive and high vibrational way?

  4. Who can you serve, be a reinforcer for, and support ?

  5. Who in sisterhood inspires you? How is this person standing in her power and being a gracious beacon and sister? How can you support her back?

  6. Who is no longer serving you in sisterhood? How will you set firmer boundaries, heal the disharmony, or detach, release, and move on? What way feels highest vibrational to you?

  7. How will you take deliberate and intentional action towards sisterhood?

  8. How will your sisterhood positively serve the collective world?

Supportive Resources:

Here’s the MindBodyGreen article I contributed to. Also featuring a couple of my close dear friends in sisterhood:

30 Ways To Actually Empower Women


"When it comes to actually slowing down and taking the necessary time we need out for self-care, we sometimes need reinforcements to make sure we actually slow down and do so," Lalah Delia tells mbg. "Being a reinforcer for one another in this way could look like helping to create the space and container for self-care time to actualize. Such as: covering the workload or chores for a sister friend, picking up her children and giving her time off, helping to extract her from her rigid routine and life for a while, running her a spa-style bath at her place or yours, scheduling her a massage or other spa treatment, making her a nourishing herbal tonic to slow down and gather herself, and just basically helping her to take a pause from her life, and not allowing her to resume until she is refueled, re-nourished, and feeling like herself again. This is a great way to be in service, as vessels, to the ones we love."

”She will need her sisterhood”

–Gloria Steinem

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