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Inside Girlboss Rally
2019 L.A.| Behind the scenes and Panel Highlights
Journey with me! In this video vlog, I take you inside and behind the scenes of Girlboss Rally 2019, at UCLA in Los Angeles. So many wisdom gems were dropped at the rally. Women came from all over the place, and the world to assemble in sisterhood, share, and learn together. The weather was warm, sunny, and electric. The whole function was vibing high. Thank you, Summertime in California!
So many places I could start. So, let's start here: GirlBOSSESS were everywhere!!
Throughout the day, I felt a kindred-ness with every lady I met. That's sisterhood. What a beautiful wavelength?! That’s just how it should be: the sisterhood supporting each other.
The topics and sessions at the rally were as diverse as you could imagine. So many feminine voices and minds sharing insight, tips, gifts, and wisdom. At the rally, Rupi Kaur recited her powerful poetry, my dear sister-friend Erica Chidi Cohen, author, doula, and founder of Loom in Los Angeles, shared here thoughts and grace with the audience, and Girlboss’s founder and CEO, Sophia Amoruso gave the opening address and chatted about all things entrepreneur-hood. As a lady entrepreneur (a.k.a. Girlboss), having a network and platform such as Girlboss to tap into is a beyond valuable.
“We may falter, we are human, it’s okay. I always say, journey with power and grace…”
– LALAH DELIA
About our panel
Our panel included other like-minded lady entrepreneurs (a.k.a. Girlbosses) who I admire. One, in particular, my good sister-friend Lauren Ash, speaker, founder of Black Girl in Om, and also the host of the Black Girl in Om podcast. I met Liz Hernandez, creator, and founder of Wordaful, and moderator Jerico Mandybur, author, self-care coach, and spiritual guide, or the first time IRL. They were beautiful souls.
You know when you meet IRL and it feels like you've already met before? Yeah, it was that kind of glorious energy.
Our panel’s focus was all about self-care, a very welcomed request from Girlboss. Our theme and title was title Slowing Down and Being Kind(er) to Yourself. I'm convinced that vibrating higher daily through self-care changes the game and allows higher purpose to actualize. This has been the case over and over again in my life and in the lives of my good entrepreneur friends.
No matter where we find ourselves and no matter what our tasks, aspirations, and goals at hand are and set before us, as we take care of ourselves, we embody more and more personal power and grit, to make it all a reality. Both of which are a must in when going after and manifesting your dreams, goals, and visions.
Self-care re-ignites our fire and passion. It nourishes us, fuels us, and restores us, helping us to show up daily as higher potential vessels and conduits in the world, especially when we're feeling depleted and worn out. Self-care anyone?
And of course, fortifying through self-care helps empower us to become the Gilrbosses we envision ourselves being; it sustains us!!
Find your soul's medicine.
Reflect on the various ways self-care empowers you. What methods and forms of self-care help you vibrate higher and feel like you again? Once you have an answer, you have the pathway. Whatever it is that makes you vibrate higher daily, do more and more of that. That's your soul's medicine. And, it’s essential to the smaller and bigger process at work in your life.
“Self-care for me is a place where you go and you don’t leave until you’re empowered.”
Here are Some of My Talking points
Self-care for me is a place where you go and you don’t leave until you’re empowered. It’s is a pathway to empowerment for me.
Self-care is not something new. The word is new, but the governing practice has been moving through a different language, throughout different times. And so, this is our time.
We have to remember that our ancestors, the generations before us, always had a way to slow down, to connect and to reset. And in the Black tradition - it would be our spirituality. Going way-way back it was still-away in solitude when possible, spirituality, gathering, and singing spirituals by a river. And in the Civil Rights movements, they had prayer meetings and meetings in each other’s homes. For our generation it is different. We don’t do the same things or fight the same struggles, but we are a continuation of their work. And so we have to remember that we have to self-care to get through and over: to vibrate higher daily.
They didn’t have the tools that we have today. We are so fortunate. Being a continuation of their work, we have no excuse not to be on the front lines and to be empowered. We may falter, we are human, it’s okay. I always say, journey with power and grace, because on some days, you will find yourself depleted. Being spiritual beings in these human bodies can be exhausting, so when you find yourself exhausted, I always say take all the time you need to feel like you again. When you remember who you are, the game changes. That’s through self-care for me, that’s what the empowering practice is about.
Self-care is going to be the foundation for you, and it’s always going to go back to that.
Each of you have a mission that you were brought to this planet with, and without self-care you’re gonna forget who you are, people will deplete you, you'll feel stuck, and always on the sidelines, but with self-care, which is something to get you going–you get back in the game with fresh higher vibrations and energy, and you become the empowered hero of your life again. And, you'll serve and show up in a greater capacity and potential.
In the Buddhist tradition, the root of all suffering is not being in the present moment. So you’re either thinking about the past or about the future. That’s a quick way to ground: ok let me think, me at this very moment, wherever I find myself, I'm ok I’m good. And from there if you are feeling stuck or weary or tired, any type of fear-based thoughts come up, just switch that, switch the vibration. i teach all about vibration, and it’s just turning the radio up. And you start affirming, I am more than able to do this. You visualize yourself doing that thing empowered or you visualize the outcome being okay.
For me, a thing that always brings me back, is gratitude. In this world, the feminine is rising at a level that is truly astounding, and we are breaking down patriarchal models, and paths. The whole get rich without trying, no, no thank you. That goes against everything that is self-care is about, and that goes against the natural rhythm of who a woman is. We can go slow, we have cycles, we can be in the present moment and know that everything is coming to us. We are meeting ‘it’ as we are being who we are and showing up [in the present]. We have a cycle. So that’s patience in itself. Embody that.
What this can look like for me, is when I feel like I’m not doing enough or something should be happening quicker, I go to gratitude. What’s happening right now? And a lot of times I’m like wait a minute, i have so much to be grateful for right now. And so i go to my gratitude list and I’ll start listing three things I’m grateful for.
Journey in grace.
You don’t have to be so strict with this. Have fun. The Universe has a sense of humor, God has a sense of humor. If you look at your journey it’s pretty funny. When we can laugh about it, it really makes the healing and the vibration change and it neutralizes a lot of triggers.
When we are so pushed to perform and to compare ourselves, I just want to bring comparison in here, because when we’re comparing we’re not [living] in the now. You are in a sacred process of always unfolding and becoming, and so who you are right now, deserves your attention and deserves your presence and deserves that you be fully engaged in where you are.
When you can be fully engaged, you show up as a powerhouse wherever you go. You’re not trying to be anyone else. You are who you are. Be fully embodied, engaged, and integrated with who you are. For me, that’s how I’ve been able to really live in my now moments. The future will take care of itself, you got this.
Self-care is not selfish. Sometimes women are taught to give, give, give, and aren’t giving to themselves, and that if you do take time to yourself it’s selfish. There shouldn’t be any shame around self-care - it’s not selfish.
When you find yourself doing something and being hard on yourself or feel down if it’s not working for you, know that someone else’s path may not your path. You’re a unique individual. Not that it’s not the right path for you because it doesn’t work, but because you’re unique. Be okay with exploring. That’s the fun part of self-care, that you can explore all you want. Also in different seasons in your life, your self-care routines will change. Be okay if you have to transition out of a routine that doesn’t work for you currently. That’s been my biggest relief, when I can say, ok it’s not that it’s not working for me it’s just not working for me now, it’s not the way, it’s not for this season. And then I can pick up and do something new. That’s a good way to explore.
What does self-care mean and look like to you?
Were you brought up seeing what self-care looks like?
Have you established healthy boundaries in your life?
How will you create a strong and devoted relationship with self-care?
How might you support a loved one’s need for self-care?
How can you be kind(er) to yourself?
Have a question, or
something to share?
Drop a comment below. Your thoughts, questions, and feedback, are welcomed, valued, appreciated.
Time for Yourself
A visual meditation and Virtual outinG for you. Plus First Podcast!
Journey with me as I go out on a self-date. In this video vlog, which doubles as a visual meditation and virtual outing, I spend nourishing alone and explorative time at The Getty Museum in sunny Los Angeles. Taking time for ourselves is essential. It’s how we continually learn ourselves. It’s a great way to cultivate our inner-lives, inner-peace, and greater self-awareness and worth. And, it’s how we take our power back. Solitude is sacred!
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Love you, so much! Relax, rest, and enjoy!
“Sometimes, you have to go off alone, to come back and be better. Solitude is sacred.”
– LALAH DELIA
Listen to The Podcast
Self-Dates: Taking time for Yourself
There are many reasons and times when being alone with yourself is cathartic, essential, necessary, and cleansing. Such as:
To process emotions, you're experiencing
To discharge heavy energy/s
To release emotional stress
To release what isn't yours vibrationally
To clear your mind
To seek and gain clarity
To listen to your inner voice
To connect to Higher Power
Refresh and reset your spirit, soul, mind, and vibrational field
Where are at least three places you can take yourself out on a self-date this summer ?
Things To Do Solo:
1. Volunteer time: go alone and spend a day away from your life and impact someone else's. What causes are you passionate about? Where/who can use your gifts. Volunteering is also a great way to learn new skills. A new craft in particular for me (although I wasn't alone) was learning to build a picket fence while volunteering with Habitat for Humanity. A whole picket fence, ya'll! The thing that stood out to me was that the process of building a fence felt like a meditation. It was the most relaxing deep physical labor! Who knew!?
2. Mother Nature: Let mother nature be your guide and companion. Nature is one of the most powerful, potent, and effective conduits available to us. Time spent in nature is soul medicine, it's cleansing, and most of the time it's free! Unless you're at a National Park or State Beach, whereas there 's a small fee to enter or park. These fees are contributions. They help with the upkeep of preserving these local and national natural spaces and treasures.
Go out and explore nature. Happy adventures to you! Don't litter.
3. Go to a sacred site or space: Spending time in sacred spaces alone is so very freeing. Without the company of someone else in your life present, you can allow your spirit and heart open up in profound ways that only alone and solitude time births. The good news is that The Most High and your divine guides are always with you.
Some of the other ways are:
Going to a garden
A favorite restaurant
Go check out a movie
Dropping in a new class
Hitting the road. Take a road trip
Other forms of travel
Use discernment and wisdom wherever you go. Stay mindful of your surroundings. Plan ahead. Leave a note with someone. Go have fun!
What are your intentions for taking time for yourself?
Go within. Listen. Where is your life and soul asking you to go?
Can you feel and sense with clarity where you’re being called to expand and vibrate higher through solitude?
Are there healthy boundaries in place to support your ‘me-time’?
If not, how will you set them and honor them?
What is your soul’s medicine this season? What’s nourishing you? What’s currently feeding your soul? Do more of that! Alone!
Where in your life are you feeling lead to be alone more often?
How will you honor the process?
“Freeing yourself was one thing, claiming ownership of that freed self was another.”
― Toni Morrison, Beloved
“Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”
― Louise Hay
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
Find Your soul’s
“This season is a sacred part of the process.”
– LALAH DELIA
3 Things I’m Learning
Journey with me! Come along, as I spend nourishing time in nature’s sanctuary and reflect on 3 Things I’m Learning in This Season. I’ve been paying deep attention to my life and honoring the process. It’s a beautiful thing when we reach a place of sacred flow. Where we aren’t forcing our life, but instead flowing and being in sacred tune: with it, with sacred divine timing, and with the bigger divine process happening for us–and through us.
In this video vlog, I share what I’m learning and leaning all the more into this season.
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What are 3 Things you’re learning This season?
What Are you Learning:
You are being divinely guiding on your journey. Your Higher Power knows the best way. Honoring the process and guidance is how you take your power back, and/or stay in your place of power.
Waht is the SACRED WORK To Do?
Stay Ready. Fortify. Do more of what sharpens you, nourishes you, and gives you power: mind, body, spirit, soul, vibrational. This helps you to show up ready and in your power, and to remain composed, graceful, and poised.
What can you do more of in this season? What can you do less of?
Are you listening to your body and to your life?
Go within. Listen. What is it communicating to you?
Observe your life and take note. Do more of what makes it and you vibrate higher daily.
Are there things, or people, that are no longer serving you in this season?
What is your soul’s medicine this season? What’s nourishing you? What’s currently feeding your soul?
Are you honoring this season and it’s process?
How can you honor it more?
Be mindful and open to what your soul’s medicine is and isn’t this season.
Today’s class will be held by the lovely India (me!). I’m Lalah’s daughter, for those who don’t know, and I serve as a VHD team member. I’m so overjoyed to be sharing my insight on the desert terrain, as I’m currently journeying through one in this season of my life. Being that I am indeed a millennial, 21, I’m fully aware of the significance of acknowledging, recognizing, and knowing how to navigate through your desert early on in life.
Throughout life, we may be called to go to a sacred place within ourselves, with ourselves, to purge, receive, release, make space for new, disconnect, become “you” again, open ourselves up for spiritual growth, enter a new season/ chapter in your life, and so much more!
In this video, I’ll be giving you a fresh perspective on how to successfully recognize and/or overcome your terrain to assist you in reaching your fullest potential. Because ultimately, that’s what it’s all about! :)
“Sometimes, you have to go be alone to come back and be better. Solitude is sacred. ”
– LALAH DELIA
1. Recognizing when it’s time to enter your desert
2. Emotional Care and support
3. Protecting Your energy
4. Significance of desert
5 practices to help you journey though your desert
Prayer and other spiritual work
Taking tonics as needed
Self-care: baths, binaural beats, massage, rest, fitness, nourishing foods…etc
Mindfulness: stay mindful of why you’re being called to be in your desert.
Are you recognizing the signs that you’re being lead to the desert?
Are you in the desert now?
Are you staying away from the things that no longer serve you?
What does your environment look and feel like? Is it supporting your terrain?
Are you honoring the process?
What are the things that make you vibrate higher daily? Use these tools to keep you not only sustained, but empowered in the desert.
What are your goals and intentions for this terrain? Keep in mind that your desert has a higher purpose.
“sometimes, you have to go be alone to come back and be better. Solitude is sacred.”
- Lalah delia
Rising Above Blockages
On The Journey
Do you ever feel your life or manifestation game is like an unsteady internet connection?
You know those moments when you’re trying to stream a video, song, or movie, and it keeps stopping and buffering because of a slow connection that interferes with the process?
Well, we've all experienced how frustrating and inconvenient this can be. A real test of patience for sure. And not only do we experience this 'testing' happening online, but offline, in our real life, as well.
Life is like an internet connection.
There are times when what we desire isn't flowing or manifesting–how we desire for it to–flow and manifest. And at other times, it all flows and manifests.
Whether caused by us, The Divine, the universe, our angels, or something or someone we need to release, blockages can happen to all of us. And, they can tempt emotions to stir us, such as anger, exhaustion, defeat, and discouragement.
It can be quite challenging to navigate ourselves through the blockages that arise. And when life isn't progressing in an ideal direction, we desire to know why and where the issue/s are steaming from. Additionally, I've come to learn that not all blockages are a bad thing. Sometimes they're simply a reroute. Whew! Praise be!
Whether a reroute, or a sign to do the work and align with what you desire, you can manifest the best outcome for yourself. Instead of allowing blockages to discourage you, remember that you can navigate through blockages and overcome them.
In this video, India and I share with you ways to do just that, how to navigate the process, overcome it, and take your power back.
”It’s all about vibration and magnetics. Everything you desire has a certain vibration to it. Vibrate it into your field.”
2. Self-love and self-worth
3. Not letting go: people, things, situations
6. Doing the work
Are there any areas you feeling blocked in right now, or lately? If so, where?
Is the block calling for you to align, empower, and fortify yourself more? Or is it calling for you to reroute in a new direction?
Where should your energy go, empowered away or empowered towards?
Doing the work is an essential part of the process. What will you do to align, empower, and fortify yourself?
Here are some practices to help gain clarity and power through blockages:
Remembering who you are
Nervous System Care (Calm down!) :)
Do the work