Inside Girlboss Rally
2019 L.A.| Behind the scenes and Panel Highlights
Journey with me! In this video vlog, I take you inside and behind the scenes of Girlboss Rally 2019, at UCLA in Los Angeles. So many wisdom gems were dropped at the rally. Women came from all over the place, and the world to assemble in sisterhood, share, and learn together. The weather was warm, sunny, and electric. The whole function was vibing high. Thank you, Summertime in California!
So many places I could start. So, let's start here: GirlBOSSESS were everywhere!!
Throughout the day, I felt a kindred-ness with every lady I met. That's sisterhood. What a beautiful wavelength?! That’s just how it should be: the sisterhood supporting each other.
The topics and sessions at the rally were as diverse as you could imagine. So many feminine voices and minds sharing insight, tips, gifts, and wisdom. At the rally, Rupi Kaur recited her powerful poetry, my dear sister-friend Erica Chidi Cohen, author, doula, and founder of Loom in Los Angeles, shared here thoughts and grace with the audience, and Girlboss’s founder and CEO, Sophia Amoruso gave the opening address and chatted about all things entrepreneur-hood. As a lady entrepreneur (a.k.a. Girlboss), having a network and platform such as Girlboss to tap into is a beyond valuable.
“We may falter, we are human, it’s okay. I always say, journey with power and grace…”
– LALAH DELIA
About our panel
Our panel included other like-minded lady entrepreneurs (a.k.a. Girlbosses) who I admire. One, in particular, my good sister-friend Lauren Ash, speaker, founder of Black Girl in Om, and also the host of the Black Girl in Om podcast. I met Liz Hernandez, creator, and founder of Wordaful, and moderator Jerico Mandybur, author, self-care coach, and spiritual guide, or the first time IRL. They were beautiful souls.
You know when you meet IRL and it feels like you've already met before? Yeah, it was that kind of glorious energy.
Our panel’s focus was all about self-care, a very welcomed request from Girlboss. Our theme and title was title Slowing Down and Being Kind(er) to Yourself. I'm convinced that vibrating higher daily through self-care changes the game and allows higher purpose to actualize. This has been the case over and over again in my life and in the lives of my good entrepreneur friends.
No matter where we find ourselves and no matter what our tasks, aspirations, and goals at hand are and set before us, as we take care of ourselves, we embody more and more personal power and grit, to make it all a reality. Both of which are a must in when going after and manifesting your dreams, goals, and visions.
Self-care re-ignites our fire and passion. It nourishes us, fuels us, and restores us, helping us to show up daily as higher potential vessels and conduits in the world, especially when we're feeling depleted and worn out. Self-care anyone?
And of course, fortifying through self-care helps empower us to become the Gilrbosses we envision ourselves being; it sustains us!!
Find your soul's medicine.
Reflect on the various ways self-care empowers you. What methods and forms of self-care help you vibrate higher and feel like you again? Once you have an answer, you have the pathway. Whatever it is that makes you vibrate higher daily, do more and more of that. That's your soul's medicine. And, it’s essential to the smaller and bigger process at work in your life.
“Self-care for me is a place where you go and you don’t leave until you’re empowered.”
Here are Some of My Talking points
Self-care for me is a place where you go and you don’t leave until you’re empowered. It’s is a pathway to empowerment for me.
Self-care is not something new. The word is new, but the governing practice has been moving through a different language, throughout different times. And so, this is our time.
We have to remember that our ancestors, the generations before us, always had a way to slow down, to connect and to reset. And in the Black tradition - it would be our spirituality. Going way-way back it was still-away in solitude when possible, spirituality, gathering, and singing spirituals by a river. And in the Civil Rights movements, they had prayer meetings and meetings in each other’s homes. For our generation it is different. We don’t do the same things or fight the same struggles, but we are a continuation of their work. And so we have to remember that we have to self-care to get through and over: to vibrate higher daily.
They didn’t have the tools that we have today. We are so fortunate. Being a continuation of their work, we have no excuse not to be on the front lines and to be empowered. We may falter, we are human, it’s okay. I always say, journey with power and grace, because on some days, you will find yourself depleted. Being spiritual beings in these human bodies can be exhausting, so when you find yourself exhausted, I always say take all the time you need to feel like you again. When you remember who you are, the game changes. That’s through self-care for me, that’s what the empowering practice is about.
Self-care is going to be the foundation for you, and it’s always going to go back to that.
Each of you have a mission that you were brought to this planet with, and without self-care you’re gonna forget who you are, people will deplete you, you'll feel stuck, and always on the sidelines, but with self-care, which is something to get you going–you get back in the game with fresh higher vibrations and energy, and you become the empowered hero of your life again. And, you'll serve and show up in a greater capacity and potential.
In the Buddhist tradition, the root of all suffering is not being in the present moment. So you’re either thinking about the past or about the future. That’s a quick way to ground: ok let me think, me at this very moment, wherever I find myself, I'm ok I’m good. And from there if you are feeling stuck or weary or tired, any type of fear-based thoughts come up, just switch that, switch the vibration. i teach all about vibration, and it’s just turning the radio up. And you start affirming, I am more than able to do this. You visualize yourself doing that thing empowered or you visualize the outcome being okay.
For me, a thing that always brings me back, is gratitude. In this world, the feminine is rising at a level that is truly astounding, and we are breaking down patriarchal models, and paths. The whole get rich without trying, no, no thank you. That goes against everything that is self-care is about, and that goes against the natural rhythm of who a woman is. We can go slow, we have cycles, we can be in the present moment and know that everything is coming to us. We are meeting ‘it’ as we are being who we are and showing up [in the present]. We have a cycle. So that’s patience in itself. Embody that.
What this can look like for me, is when I feel like I’m not doing enough or something should be happening quicker, I go to gratitude. What’s happening right now? And a lot of times I’m like wait a minute, i have so much to be grateful for right now. And so i go to my gratitude list and I’ll start listing three things I’m grateful for.
Journey in grace.
You don’t have to be so strict with this. Have fun. The Universe has a sense of humor, God has a sense of humor. If you look at your journey it’s pretty funny. When we can laugh about it, it really makes the healing and the vibration change and it neutralizes a lot of triggers.
When we are so pushed to perform and to compare ourselves, I just want to bring comparison in here, because when we’re comparing we’re not [living] in the now. You are in a sacred process of always unfolding and becoming, and so who you are right now, deserves your attention and deserves your presence and deserves that you be fully engaged in where you are.
When you can be fully engaged, you show up as a powerhouse wherever you go. You’re not trying to be anyone else. You are who you are. Be fully embodied, engaged, and integrated with who you are. For me, that’s how I’ve been able to really live in my now moments. The future will take care of itself, you got this.
Self-care is not selfish. Sometimes women are taught to give, give, give, and aren’t giving to themselves, and that if you do take time to yourself it’s selfish. There shouldn’t be any shame around self-care - it’s not selfish.
When you find yourself doing something and being hard on yourself or feel down if it’s not working for you, know that someone else’s path may not your path. You’re a unique individual. Not that it’s not the right path for you because it doesn’t work, but because you’re unique. Be okay with exploring. That’s the fun part of self-care, that you can explore all you want. Also in different seasons in your life, your self-care routines will change. Be okay if you have to transition out of a routine that doesn’t work for you currently. That’s been my biggest relief, when I can say, ok it’s not that it’s not working for me it’s just not working for me now, it’s not the way, it’s not for this season. And then I can pick up and do something new. That’s a good way to explore.
What does self-care mean and look like to you?
Were you brought up seeing what self-care looks like?
Have you established healthy boundaries in your life?
How will you create a strong and devoted relationship with self-care?
How might you support a loved one’s need for self-care?
How can you be kind(er) to yourself?
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